The Wife Says: My Husband’s a Slut

Men don’t get repeat. If I want to drive my husband crazy, I let him sync my iPhone. (Okay, I don’t know how to do it myself but can he make béchamel sauce?) He always checks out my playlist.

You should hear the outrage when he sees I’ve listened to “One” (The U2/Mary J. Blige version) more than 200 times or “Ain’t No Rest for the Wicked” by Cage the Elephant even more.  [256 times and 301 times.-AC]

I’m a writer. I get in grooves. Music inspires me. One character is Blur’s “Charmless Man.” A different character requires Adele’s “Someone Like You.” Songs set the mood. Music as muse.

Women like the familiar. Knowing the words, where the chords change. Could be why women like hit music radio stations.

Men? It’s all shiny and new. Musical terra nova. Give me something I haven’t heard before.

Is it evolutionary? Testosterone driven? Let’s see what’s around the corner, over the horizon. Do men need that tingle of danger and discovery?

Does that make women (OK, me) boring? Staid? Stick in the mud? I don’t think so. I love when he adds new songs to my playlist. Kind of like when you go to the video store (sorry, old analogy) and there were those shelves that said if you like this, you’ll love this. Now computers use algorithms or something.

I like the new. But it’s like buying shoes with high heels. You have to scuff up the soles, wear them around the house until they fit and feel really comfy. Make them yours.

Music is the same for me. I need to inhale it through my pores. Live the lyrics. Digest the melody. That takes time. I’m not boring. I prefer to think of myself as musically monogamous.

My husband?  He’s a slut.

Alan Cross

is an internationally known broadcaster, interviewer, writer, consultant, blogger and speaker. In his 30+ years in the music business, Alan has interviewed the biggest names in rock, from David Bowie and U2 to Pearl Jam and the Foo Fighters. He’s also known as a musicologist and documentarian through programs like The Ongoing History of New Music.

6 thoughts on “The Wife Says: My Husband’s a Slut

  • September 27, 2011 at 2:42 pm
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    I love the discovery of new music and when I've acquired enough of it, I like to make mixtape (rrr, playlists and then podcasts) of my favourites… which then I may put on repeat over and over and over and over again. But again, usually as music while I'm doing something else.

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  • September 27, 2011 at 8:16 pm
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    I listen to stuff on loop all the time, but I also love to find new music. This might be a bit of a broad generalization :P.

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  • September 27, 2011 at 8:34 pm
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    I often listen to whole albums over and over again, and occasionally certain songs get repeated but my son is notorious for listening to the same song over and over and over again. Even before he started to learn to play the guitar, he would listen to songs by Billy Talent, U2 or Mobile repeatedly – waking and sleeping. He's been known to drive his sister and me NUTS … lol

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  • September 27, 2011 at 9:32 pm
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    Sometimes you "just can't get enough". Yesterday I put "Blister in the Sun" on repeat, just to see how many times it would play on my way to work. (Lost count.)

    Nothing wrong with getting stuck in a groove. Very comfy.

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  • September 28, 2011 at 11:17 pm
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    If you've ever dj'ed an event, this rings so true! The ladies only seem to want to dance to the familliar. The dudes on the other hand are looking for new beats to come down. Generalization? Sure but people vote by dancing!

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  • October 2, 2011 at 11:55 pm
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    M.E.B., i think it depends on the song/mood/location/activity/context. the top 3 most played songs on my ipod are all classical and have all been played over 200 times each, but that's because it makes for great background noise when i need to focus. sometimes you NEED to hear a song over and over and over until you get it out of your system. but then just as easily, that same song on another day or in another context, can bore you halfway through the first play and you just want something new and different. so i guess sometimes i'm monogamous and sometimes i'm a slut. 😉

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